January 17, 2016
I want to find out who you are without saying a word.
Choose love~ (not the "in love" kind of love, but the universal love for one another that forces us to make a leap of faith and rely on a person)
This is the message I try to communicate with whoever I meet. I am 100% open, but I am afraid it may be misunderstood due to expectations or previous encounters of a person's life. I am curious and expect more, I am never satisfied and always want to know more. This should be a flattering feeling - someone is taking the time to listen and remember and meet you. Not just for a second, or base their opinion about you upon that brief encounter, but being dependable enough to give you the opportunity to grace them with your presence. People are impatient and get distracted from what is in front of them easily. When lacking the ability to discover who a human being is, then a true connection can never be met. Only true connections take time and reliability is the facilitator of this connection.
"I'm afraid of many things, but loneliness is not among them, and it’s actually quite depressing to have to witness the lengths most people are willing to go just to avoid being alone.”
To be open to loneliness is to be open to others. Because it is the mindset where you do not need to chase the social life, or seek attention from it but graciously accept it when it is there and appreciate it when it is not.
"Within each of us, there is a silence, a silence as vast as the universe. And when we experience that silence we remember who we are" - Gunilla Norris
When that silence is explored by each individual the level of your relationship with other excels to the next level. The way a conductor leads an orchestra. Without a sound.
"The conductor does not make a sound, he depends for his power on his ability to make other people powerful" - Benjamin Zander
This is what makes a person powerful, influential, memorable, effective in what they do. What leaders need most is an unspoken understanding through trust and respect.
If I need to say it - you are not reading between the lines.
I can understand how this can cause confusion - but there is a sense that we all have but most ignore.
Why are these individuals:
and many other artists able to create this universal sadness? They have appreciated that silence and gift that Jim Carrey speaks of in his message and have been able to share and deliver it to the public.
Respect comes from within.
January 16, 2016
In April 2013 I had just returned home from abroad and started working at a local organic farm. I applied to some classes at the community college as prerequisites for the Masters program I recently finished.
Masters of Agribusiness from KSU via their Global Campus. I began the master's program while working part-time at a snack food headquarters in KC. First semester was rough, but met good friends and fun professors and decided to stick it out. Job went full-time, passing my classes and learning about the people I work with and developing these relationships.
Be an asset to your company, and if the company/organization/department is too big, find a way to do so. There is always a way.
Challenge yourself. Always.
April 7, 2013
Out where a friend is a friend
Where the longhorn cattle feed
On the the lowly gypsum weed
Back in the saddle again
Ridin' the range once more
Totin' my old .44
Where you sleep out every night
And the only law is right
Back in the saddle again...
If anybody has the time and interest enough to do so, please read Daniel Tudor's book Korea: The Impossible Country. Because it is impossible to imagine, so you need to educate yourself. North and South Korea are brothers. However the alliance the South has with the US hurts its relationship with its brother.
What were North and South Korea but conquered countries dependent upon another superpower? Did they really have any say in their own history? And not long before these wars, the Japanese were their Imperialists...and they would say the same thing English teachers in the classrooms are saying... "No Korean!"
Also check out what the students think...
Today Seoul is ALIVE, but to restate the high schooler in the previous link, "I don't wish Korea to be the wealthiest country in the world. I would rather it be a country where its people's right to be happy is secured" - Love & Peace. Korea is not happy (anymore) and it shows through the distrust, shallow status flaunts, and customer service. Just because there are billions of people does not mean they cannot treat each other with respect: Review THIS!
Culture, language, respect for your own country takes a lot more effort when you are being bullied into thinking like the bigger guy. However, many Koreans are still proud of the sadness and struggle their country went to to become an economic force in the world today. But an economic force is about all they have become. Korea produces many products and provides what is most important - cheap labor. Minimum wage is $4/hour. Who in the US would work for that?! Most 20 year olds there do, and it is a 'part-time' job done while studying or supposedly doing something else. So what is the cost of this economic force? And why do English teachers, who are the same age with the same degree, get paid $27/hour, part-time as well.
How can people respect you, if you do not respect yourself? Is respecting your country the same thing as respecting it's citizens? Think about it from a Korean, Asian, social, communal, perspective. Respecting yourself above your country is selfish. In America the well-being of Americans is what makes the US respectable. That is why when you are obese, lazy, welfare-fed, the respect goes out the window.
The comparison of the two countries is almost ridiculous because of the major differences involving geography, culture, and history. But the relationship South Korea and the US have together today and in the past is unavoidable. US influences the division between the North and South. We think democratization is good for everyone. When in fact people who have been living a life of servitude of the state for most of their history think that democracy/capitalism is different and perhaps selfish, making people themselves selfish. Countries were created for a reason. Nations were built differently because of the different people who built them. We are the same as a species, meaning we are born and then we die, but not as a race, and I mean human race.
Are democracies built upon capitalism only? Lions for Lambs is a movie that restates the birth of democracy, or the American dream, when they discuss in a classroom when has a big house with high walls not been the American dream? The answers the presenters gave was "1775, 2001, etc"...so the answer I believe is no. And can Korea really be a democracy with a different kind of history? Or is the effort through capitalism just creating a bigger gap between the haves and the have-nots?
I believed in democracy to my core in college, and now I am not quite sure it is for everyone. Asia is on its own standard now. And what comes next might blow democracy out of the water. Things change, as do people, whether you like it or not. And the big footprint US left in North and South Korea is still there. Koreans are like elephants, they never forget. And when you can't forget, it is often impossible to forgive.
Full time job 7 days/week doesn't seem like such a big deal after meeting a friend's boyfriend who works the fields in western Kansas, or after meeting bankers in Korea who work 8am to 11pm then are expected to go out and drink until they puke afterwards, and do it all over again in the morning. Work can be a life, or a living. Where is the time to consider the questions asked above. Who cares about anything else besides putting food on your table and a roof over your head? Who cares?....
The value of your life is dependent upon how you see it, not how others see it.
Investment in relationships, in businesses, in hobbies, in having a social life all comes at various risk levels. But not doing them is the greatest risk of all. There is a difference between hoarding and investing, usually you are always thinking about yourself, but when you invest you are also thinking of your connection with others. It creates a financial tie (usually most important) that you want to take care of. So if you do not care, you make just enough for you and nobody else matters. When in fact everything you do involves someone else whether you like it or not. You cannot go out in the woods and expect to wing it on your own, there is not only the natural world but the obvious encounters with other unpredictable living things that will happen. Your well-being depends on the well-being of others. One job requires another job. Like taking care of the fields..is it more efficient to have a piece of equipment for tilling, planting, spraying and irrigating and YOU do all the work? When in God's name would you ever get that done?! Or should one person be assigned to working each piece of equipment separately and follow each other down the line, saving time and money.
If you do not care, you will not hold up your end of the bargain and no one will trust you to work with them. In Korea, each person has a job, creating more pointless employment for the massive amounts of people living in Seoul. However pointless each person's job depends on the job done by the next person. And even though there are many jobs, there are even more people without jobs. The unemployment rate is insane. And besides that they still spend! Like typical capitalists...you could call it greed, selfishness, but in Korea it is a necessity..socially. Korea racks up credit debt faster than the 50s 60s and 70s 80s in the US combined. "If thrift is an Asian virtue, then it is one that South Koreans are notably lacking: each adult has almost five credit cards on average, and the household debt burden exceeds that of the United States before the subprime crisis".
How is capitalism helping this situation? When the rule of law in Korea is anything but respected and the people who will suffer from this debt will be the have-nots. Trust is impossible in this country when dealing with money. There are few well-to-do people who are honest, because of the cutthroat environment South Korea has created for itself. It's dream to succeed in the international world has abandoned its domestic labor force. Forced retirement at 50 and what Daniel Tudor calls the "angry 30-40 year olds". And there is a LOT of middle class, normal people who are not creating this debt but will suffer from it because of the selfish consumerism by the rich. Wake up South Korea! You have great people in your country!
Relationships are important and how you treat the ones you work with is a major indicator in how successful you will be in the long run, which, in the end, your relationships with those people are all that matter.
May 8, 2012
October 8, 2011
Solitary Man - Neil Diamond
An ode to individualism.
*hauch a loogy
*shoot the shit
Experience; comes in all different shapes and sizes. For me it isn't about making the perfect resume anymore. Of course I need to keep up with promoting myself to whoever pays me a decent salary. Money is a limitation. You can only overcome it if you are smart enough. But what will matter for you and everyone else in the long run is what you contributed to society other than money. Seeing what is important to that other person is as important as seeing what is truly important to yourself.
"Contribute more than you consume" - Ray Bachard KU Volleyball Coach. This is not said in an Asian setting where everyone should work for less and sacrifice their weekends to earn a ton of money. But to volunteer, spend those weekends improving society's environment, schools, people. Seoul is on the brink but there is not nearly enough effort put forth by its own people. American cities are also taking the fast track to money mind set, where they need to think what things can help those have-nots. "Giving the time is just as important as giving the money"http://www.cnn.com/2012/03/16/us/penny-hardaway-memphis-school/index.html
Why does individualism matter? For the obvious reason that one person can make a bigger change than an angry mob.
August 27, 2011
April 25, 2011
Ryan Adams had some thoughts with a couple of his first albums which I prefer. But youth has to be analyzed, why after its gone why not take your time right now....
Four blond haired fizzy drink loving brits from the 80s will never allow you to go wrong on the ridiculous side of things. When you are young silly dance moves like skirt ripping and a Capella voices seem to fit and have a lightness to it that adds relief to everyday distractions. What do I mean by everyday distractions is probably exactly what Bucks Fizz provides - note: youtube adventures deem plausible cause for such procrastination - but then again is procrastination our distraction or is it the return to self-observation?
"CHAIRMAN: ...Which brings us once again to the urgent realisation of just how much there is still left to own. Item six on the agenda: the meaning of life. Now, uh, Harry, you've had some thoughts on this.
HARRY: That's right. Yeah, I've had a team working on this over the past few weeks, and, uh, what we've come up with can be reduced to two fundamental concepts. One: people are not wearing enough hats. Two: matter is energy. In the universe, there are many energy fields which we cannot normally perceive. Some energies have a spiritual source which act upon a person's soul. However, this soul does not exist ab initio, as orthodox Christianity teaches. It has to be brought into existence by a process of guided self-observation. However, this is rarely achieved, owing to man's unique ability to be distracted from spiritual matters by everyday trivia." - Monty Python, The Meaning of Life
Unbearable lightness usually comes with the territory of being young and curious about the other sex, and about the whole idea of relationships. The book is okay, it explains the opposite sex at least to those who overreact when they are young and caught up in the emotion. The book explains human mistakes to those who think that being perfect makes you pure and therefore the foundation of a relationship must be completely rid of all mistakes or masked with unwanted desires. The book also explores the individual within a relationship. A lot of young people (I myself i guess) did not or do not realize that the individual in the relationship needs to be developed before any sort of true relationship can be attained.
Relationships or the opposite sex are the ULTIMATE distraction from self-observation.
Go do what you wanna do:
1. Build a dream house
2. Trek the South Pole
3. Get Distracted
bucks fizz - when we were young